Papi, Husband, Angry Corporate Wage Slave with a love of music and a joy of cooking for my family and trying new foods. This is what makes a Punk Rock Papi....
"Lost in my own misery, until you came and helped me to see, that I don't have to be alone. Thanks for giving this lost heart a home....." -The Bouncing Souls
I suppose this is what we consider 'obligatory posts'but I never feel obligated to share one of my most favorite days of the year. Today, I am sharing with you the cheesiest post of the year! Believe me, I know I write some cheesy posts, but on 11/30, its just plain gross....
Relentless Honeymoon? I have often been told in the past year how our marriage is 'young' and we have been told since the beginning that we are 'honeymooning'. So does it actually end? I like to think for us, it never will.
It all started with a Myspace message and a night of texting. The rest is all history....
For our first year, I was in awe of how far we had come in only a couple years. This year, I am in awe of how much more I love my wife and the life we are creating together. You'd think two people who spend 99.9% of their time with each other would pretty much be sick of each other, my day never ends unless I'm sharing it with her...plain and simple.
Stephanie is a beautiful force to be reckoned with. She will come to you guns a blazing with honesty. Her worst enemies are those who are unwilling to hear the truth. I fell in love with Steph for her honest, in your face, ability to connect with you. She sees you for who you are within seconds and will either exploit your strengths or crush your weaknesses. I fell in love with her because her jokes are also as bad as my own.....she has an infinite patience with someone as ridiculous as me. She is my muse, she inspires me in ways I don't even realize until the time has come and gone. Half of me thrives simply by being apart of her life and I love her all the way through for it!
She has also given me the best gift of all, her heart and an amazing child who continues to mold me and shape me into the greatest man I could ever want to be. A child who also reminds us both of what its like to look into our future....
Now that the cheese is old and moldy....
I walk into our third year together with nothing more than renewed vigor towards the great times ahead of us, the times we intend to share together, the many amazing years we have planned together. I came from a different place when I met Steph, but our road just goes on and on now. I look forward to growing old with her and watching our children grow and start their own families. We both come from a place where values on family have been placed at the bottom but we refuse to let ours feel that way...maybe we are setting a new trend for both our families...
One of the best things to our successful relationship is the fact we have done this on our own. We have called the shots for each other and it has made all the difference as we walk the road for tomorrow....
Steph is my heart, my ooshie booshie, my rape vagina, my sexy pants retard, my Mami to my Papi, the cheese to my mac, the crack to my rock....
What more could I ask for?
I love you Steph, thanks for two years of making me the luckiest man I know....
As the anniversary of being married to my most favorite person is here, I leave with you the last round of all things cheesy for Mami and her mix tapes. A silly lovey dovey post is set to follow this one. So listen, enjoy and jam out!
Owl City- If My Heart Was A House I discovered this song earlier in the year. Always take me to a thinking place and its a sweet song. This vid is a great find and appeals to the weird, indie nature of things we enjoy so much
The Bouncing Souls- Like The Sun I have found alot of songs by Bouncing Souls that I often relate to my awesome life with my Booshie. This is a song about my life in the beginning with Steph and how things ended up the way they are....
Tom Petty-Here Comes My Girl
Seriously, Tom takes the words right of my mouth....
Paramore-Where The Lines Overalp A favorite since this album came out for both me nad Mami.....
As our marriage grows and becomes the great thing it is and as it evolves further and further into something more grand than we can ever expect as we grow older and wiser, every road has its bumps. I can safely say, for all our small disagreements, we have never had any real, actual fights. We have probably seen our share of bullshit from other relationships that fighting it out got us nowhere. I am proud to boast that any real annoyances between us never lasted for more than an hour or two, and never a fight. Once you start saying mean, nasty things, you can never take it back. I strongly believe that once you can start saying horrible things to each other, it gets easier to just keep doing it. If I start feeling the need to say hateful things, I might as well start planning the inevitable divorce....
However, we are never without frustration as far as life goes. I come home frustrated because of issues with work, we both have tough days with Nate and sometimes we are just frustrated. I think our toughest battle as a couple has been dealing with friends and family in need. We both have people we care about on each side who we are always trying to reach out to and help. Its so hard to understand why we can't be there for them because they choose to do the opposite of what we ask or offer. We offer support, love, advice and understanding and anything else we are able to offer. But unless it comes with an easy way out i.e. money or a free ride, noone wants our help.
The saddest part is, for all the love and support we offer, its never long before we have it turned back on us and it makes me sick to my stomach. When I moved to SC in need of a new change on a life that was destroying me, all I wanted was help and support and love, instead I got grief and more questions than answers. Steph always keeps her heart open when our friends and family are willing to look past themselve as am I.
The fact we are so supportive of one another and of course, Nate who is simply our great inspiration for all things that make our lives great.
These songs are my reminder over the past year of those struggles......
Deadmau5- Raise Your Weapon "Ripping through like a missle, ripping through my heart. Rob me of this love..." Rise Against- Savior "I don't hate you, I just want to save you while there's still something left to save..." We both have sisters that remind me of this struggle to make things right, its like trying to reach heights unseen....
So I was travelling through time the other day and I found this old(new) photo of Steph and I. Some things never change apparently....
As I come upon my second anniversary of being married to the most amazing person I know, I think of what makes us laugh. I guarantee that about 2/3rds of our relationship is based on making each other laugh and giggle. Whether its through poorly told jokes or cheap shots with ticklespots, theres hardly a shortage of laughter between us.
In our second anniversary, I am continuing the fine tradition of making mix tapes for Mami. Maybe not as excessive as before but nonetheless, I think its a nice touch. This post and these songs serve to remind Mami and I of things that make us laugh both at ourselves and at each other....
Tripping Daisy- I Got a Girl "I got a girl who speaks her mind, I got a girl who will argue anytime..."
Flashback to my days as a bright red hair dyed annoying teenager, I loved this band! Their dyed hair and ridiculous lyrics were perfect for me. This song, just reminds me of our first few months together. Testing each other, feeling other out and fucking with each other which resulted into the awesome we have today.....
The Lonely Island- No Homo If anything is likely to come from Mami's mouth, its always been 'hey, no homo!' so it was hiliarious when we found this song as we discovered this band. It is now my ringtone for when she texts me.... I must also point out how hard it was to find anything to post because theres so many other videos claiming to be 'before the Lonely Island guys' or stating how much they hate the phrase cause its offensive....
Morningwood- Take Off Your Clothes I play this song for Mami whenever we are in the car. We always lurrrvvvv to see each other naked! And you can't watch either!
"The conclusion is as inescapable as it is moronic..." -Futurama
As another month passes from my last blog, I am back! I hope everyone had a great Thanksgiving and remembered all the things that make them thankful. I also hope that you remain thankful for these things throughout the year and not just one day where you are all gorging on delicious food. It seems we are so quick to jump into rushing this year once Turkey Day visits and now we are at the local retail shops by 10pm, putting pepper spray into each other's face for $200 tvs. Its pretty unreal and it seems we get so crazy these days that we are missing the point.
Thats another rant for later I suppose....
Another post about how I'm back for a moment to let you know I am alive and well. By the time I sit and do these little posts, I am filled with this desire to rant and rave and be a crazy person. I'm always adding things to a list in my phone about things I want to post about. Hopefully I'll get back to it soon...
Lately, its all about work, I am constantly working as hard as I can. There are ups and downs and enough to keep my plate full. I cooked another sampling feast like last year and had alot of successes. When not staying on top of the work thing, its me and the family. We are always looking to keep life fun for Nate. Money keeps us from doing the things we would like to do but it doesn't stop us from seeking adventure and fun. Mami is our glue who keeps us from failing to enjoy the finer moments, she keeps all of us afloat by finding new and fun ways to have a blast with each other without breaking the bank.
And this is our 2nd year as a married couple this week, the next few days will be sure to point that out. Its amazing how the time flies and we've come this way with only many more to come........
With literally 45mins left in the day, I wanted to send some Halloween wishes and hope everyone had an awesome fun day. I have learned that candy turns the monkey into a rampaging crazy person, but already hes enjoying the late nights and silly movies. Not to mention all the ridiculous, fun things we like to do with him.
I intend to have a more fun post about our Halloween adventure maybe in the next day or two. But for now, I am running on fours of sleep after 12 hours of work and our trick or treat march.
This is a good time to let you know, I have a Facebook page now! Thats right, its not just a Tweeterer thing now. So, check out Papi's FB and give it a like or two. Don't forget to enter the Shutterfly giveaway and win some free cards!
You know whats scary about Halloween? The fact that someone out there is actually 'shocked' the Kim Kardashian wedding didn't work out?
Don't be a tool or puppet....
Last but not least, I am posting my favorite Halloween video, which also happens to be the monkey's favorite as well and since its pretty much all about him, I pass on this awesome to you!
Last year, Mami and I took advantage of a great deal with Shutterfly for our Christmas Cards. We both have alot of friends and family spread out all over from South Carolina all the way to Colorado and Iowa and even California. In my line of work, its virtually impossible to make stops in all these places during the holidays and we are big on keeping pictures on the ready for our "oh so spreadout" friends and family.
Our cards turned out so great last year that I am super excited to be able to share this opportunity with you the readers as I am passing on a chance to giveaway cards over to you this year!
Shutterfly not only does just one theme of cards, they a wide variety of cards and products for all your photo occasions. I thought it would be great next year to use them for Nate's Birthday Party cause you only turn 3 once!
Shutterfly even has photo books available for all your collections that you collect throughout the year.
We received a few Shutterfly cards from our blog friends and since I am giving away 3 codes, we hope to see even more! Get crackin' cause the holidays will be here before you know it!
